This is a Good Fight!

good fight

I don’t care how much credit a good parent gets, it isn’t enough…on the other hand you cannot estimate the damage caused through the years by a poor parent. We are all going to make repeated mistakes, so when I say poor, I’m not talking about my ability or yours as a parent. I’m talking about our intentionality and EFFORT. Today I want to discuss two obstacles we must fight to ensure our kids’ success—people and convenience.

I believe one of the most important things necessary in order to successfully parent is to associate with other parents and like-minded people who share your values and passion for the next generation and will not accept mediocrity when it comes to raising godly kids. If you spend lots of time surrounded by folks or have lots of exposure to ideas that do not align with this vision, two things will happen. You will constantly compromise your core beliefs in order to maintain a certain palatable relationship standard, and inevitably this will deteriorate those foundational beliefs you hold dear in your heart.

I Corinthians 15:33 – Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

Planning and navigating interaction with the right people is a tougher road. The wrong people can be more convenient and initially easier on child and parent…but the consequences are deadly! If we run a compromising, “easy” home, we are playing with fire. It is the child’s responsibility to yield to the guidance of the parent, not the parent’s job to please the child. My job as a parent is to structure a home upholding the highest standards that will lead to success for my kids if they follow that leadership. It’s my obligation to facilitate an environment that is loving and intentional, NOT to facilitate an environment that is convenient or even comfortable if the comfort conflicts with the right values.

Proverbs 29:15 – …Reproof gives wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.

People and convenience…both can be blessings, and both can be obstacles.




P.S. – The more right people we have around, the fewer obstacles seem to pop up!

About Kris Hogan

With a 16-year educational tenure under his belt, Kris Hogan has spent the last nine years working at Grapevine Faith High School in Grapevine, Texas. In addition to sitting on its administrative team, Hogan also pulls double duty as Faith’s head football coach. Hogan also was the subject of Remember Why You Play, a 2008 book by sports columnist and author David Thomas that chronicled the lives, struggles and successes of Coach Hogan and his team. READ MORE→