Bad Behavior? Consider This.

Bad Behavior

When a child’s behavior isn’t what you expect, it always goes back to their fundamental philosophical beliefs…their most basic methods of viewing the world.

In my last post, I promised to outline a few common philosophical viewpoints that lead to noble behavior, and a few that lead to bad behavior.

Consider philosophical viewpoint #1, which leads to bad behavior…equality is a virtue.

I can hear some asking now, “What’s wrong with that? Equality is good, isn’t it?” Well in some areas it can be, but certainly not all the time. For the past 40 to 50 years, “equality” has replaced morality on the college campus and has been driven down into grade school by our public education system. What does this look like when it plays out? On a big scale, it’s redefining the definition of marriage for the first time in the history of the world. In the debate on marriage, would you like equality or morality to win the argument? Though it sounds appealing initially, if equality is not governed, that is, filtered by the screen of morality, it can be disastrous if not evil.

If I choose not to look for a job, though I am fully able, should the government send me a vacation stipend to make sure I’m not left out? (Without a job, I could not afford a vacation, you know.) I have three kids…don’t you want them to enjoy childhood as much as your kids? Don’t they deserve equal treatment?

The European model of equality is based on the idea that equality is to be attained in the end. The American model of equality is based on the idea that equality is a gift in the beginning. (To us Americans, where you end up in the end depends on what you do or fail to do!)

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain inalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” (Notice we are not guaranteed happiness only the freedom to pursue it.)

The socialist European goal of equality is to make the masses equal. The American goal of equality is for individuals to make of themselves whatever they will and to go as far as their personal talents, gifts, and abilities will take them.

How did our country lose its moral compass? Why is there less moral fabric in our nation than ever before? Why do I have to be so careful about what is constantly popping up on my TV screen? Because we have raised an entire generation that values “equality” above morality…and they are currently carrying more influence than anyone else.

Next time, we’ll look at a philosophical viewpoint that will lead your child and mine into noble behavior.  In the meantime, go have the “equality” talk with your shining stars!



About Kris Hogan

With a 16-year educational tenure under his belt, Kris Hogan has spent the last nine years working at Grapevine Faith High School in Grapevine, Texas. In addition to sitting on its administrative team, Hogan also pulls double duty as Faith’s head football coach. Hogan also was the subject of Remember Why You Play, a 2008 book by sports columnist and author David Thomas that chronicled the lives, struggles and successes of Coach Hogan and his team. READ MORE→