A Boston Bomb…and My Son


The cowardice act in Boston two days ago and questions about it from my first grader reminded me of an important truth to remember as I raise my kids. “Daddy, why did those people set up a bomb to hurt those other people? Are they bad guys? Are you going to go get them?”

Remember when you were sitting at a traffic light and you looked down to mess with your radio or phone, and out of the corner of your eye you saw the car next to you moving and you weren’t sure if it was them or you? At first you were not sure who was moving, as you began pushing harder on your already engaged brakes. But upon getting your head back up and eyes refocused, you could see it was them, and you were not about to rear end someone! I have two questions: How did you know it was them moving and not you? Answer: Because the trees or things in the background behind them, served as an immediate point of reference, and your eyes almost instantaneously transferred that information to your brain. Next question: What would you have done if the trees would have been moving? Answer: We are not sure…and therein lies the ultimate danger. Without a point of reference that is true, we don’t know whether to accelerate, turn right, left, or slam on the brakes!

Think about what the moral point of reference must be for the person or people behind planting the bomb that took the life of 8 year old Martin Richard, and injured almost 200 people. My point and contention is this…the further away a person gets from a truthful moral point of reference, the worse decisions he/she will make…the closer one is to a truthful moral point of reference, the better decisions he/she will make. Without a solid truthful point of reference, everything becomes blurred and decisions become sloppy very quickly. Like ship captains and air plane pilots use lighthouses and gauges, a true point of reference equates to good navigation.

The United States of America is without question the greatest country in the history of the world. But sadly, our country no longer has a moral reference point for the value system it espouses. Read that last sentence again. There is a remnant of a solid value system ingrained into the American culture, but the original reference point has been methodically attacked over the past 40 years to such a degree that we now have millions of Americans who do not, in fact cannot, acknowledge the moral origins of this country.

I have to be diligent as a parent to ensure my kids understand their moral point of reference so well that it becomes a filter for every decision they make.   I have to give them a system…a law of absolute truth that never changes as a point of reference.

Teach a point of unchanging truth!


Hebrews 13:8: Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.

About Kris Hogan

With a 16-year educational tenure under his belt, Kris Hogan has spent the last nine years working at Grapevine Faith High School in Grapevine, Texas. In addition to sitting on its administrative team, Hogan also pulls double duty as Faith’s head football coach. Hogan also was the subject of Remember Why You Play, a 2008 book by sports columnist and author David Thomas that chronicled the lives, struggles and successes of Coach Hogan and his team. READ MORE→