4 Practical Steps to Counter the Introduction of Pornography

Counter Porn

Warning: Your children will most likely be exposed to pornographic content by the age of 11, if not sooner. (*The average age of first exposure is 11 years old.) Questions to ask yourself:

Will they be prepared?

Will they have an advantage?

If YOU prepare them, then the answer is YES.

Below are four strategies that will give your children a purity advantage.

1. Utilize Prayer 

Once the reality sinks in that he/she will be exposed to pornography and there is very little you can do about it, it should cause you to drop to your hands and knees and start praying.

On the day my nephew was born, I started praying for his purity. My prayer is that he will view his purity as God views it. How does God view purity? He views it as sacred and valuable. God sees purity as worth protecting and defending at all costs.

2. Communicate Value (even young kids get this)

The more value something has, then the more action we take to protect it. In God’s economy, our sexual purity is of infinite value. Valuing purity leads to protecting it. Here are a few examples of the things we value and the great lengths we take to protect them.

Money

To make sure no one steals our money, we put locks on our doors, install a security system throughout the house, bolt a safe to the floor, and tell no one the combination to the lock. (A safe makes a great visual when teaching your child about protecting things of value.)

Mommy

The kid (especially a son) who loves his mom will fight for her if a bad guy tries to hurt her. He will take action, even if he doesn’t know the first thing about fighting. He may even grab Dad’s gun. Mom is worth defending.

Purity

The kid who values his purity, guards it. He will choose to skip out on an R-rated movie with his friends because it is not worth jeopardizing his purity.

3. Arm Them With Specific Scripture

Have your kids memorize specific Scripture verses in preparation for specific temptations.

We know that our children’s sexual purity will be attacked. Arm them with the two passages below:

How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word. With my whole heart I seek you; let me not wander from your commandments! For I have stored your Word in my heart, that I might not sin against you.

Psalm 119:9-11

Finally, brothers, whatever true, whatever noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, and whatever is admirable. If there is anything excellent or praiseworthy, think about these things. 

Philippians 4:8-11

When Satan tempted Jesus three times (Matthew 4:1-11), how did Jesus respond? He quoted Scripture. Jesus quoted three specific Scriptures in response to three specific temptations.

By having your children memorize these verses, you will be training them to respond to temptation exactly how Jesus responded—with specific Scripture. Greatness!

4. Cultivate a Judgment-Free Environment 

Make it your personal goal to find out the first time your child is exposed to pornography. This is not as easy as it sounds, unfortunately.

Although the story below is fiction, it is the story of thousands of men and women whose struggle with pornography began as child.

Jack is 11 years old, and his parents care deeply about his sexual purity. His parents monitor the websites that he looks up to make sure his purity is not compromised online.

Jack is invited to spend the night at his friend Brett’s house. Jack’s parents are close friends with Brett’s family, so they allow Jack to spend the night. While Jack and Brett are hanging out, Brett hops online and shows Jack a few pornographic pictures. They hear Brett’s parents coming down the hallway, so Brett turns off the computer and makes Jack promise not to tell anyone what he saw. 

The next day Jack’s parents pick him up and ask about how the sleepover went. Jack responds that he had a good time. In reality, Jack feels a mixture of emotions about what he saw, such as guilt, embarrassment, and curiosity. A few days later, Jack is given a cell phone by his parents with internet access. … Do I need to continue with what happens next?

Most kids are too ashamed to tell their parents about their first exposure to pornography. Consequently, it remained a “secret” sin that they dealt with alone and unsuccessfully for years, some their entire lives.

The tragic part about the story is that it is preventable. It is preventable IF they aren’t afraid to tell you what they experienced. A judgment-free environment needs to be cultivated. They need to know you are on their side.

Tell your children over and over that you want to know when they see naked men/women on the TV, or a website, or on a cell phone. Emphasize that you are not going to punish them but that you want to coach them through it.

This is not the time to whip their tail, nor is it a time to passively say, “It’s a natural part of growing up. It was bound to happen at some point.”

This is the time to remind them that only valuable things are attacked. Challenge them to protect their sexual purity. Reinforce that you are on their side. Recite the Scripture verses they have memorized (Philippians 4:8-11 and Psalm 119:9-11).

Your child’s sexual purity will be attacked. Will they be armed with truth and be ready to fight for it? They will be … if YOU train them.

Let’s Train!

Doug Hutchins

Founder of Purity Training

*Sources: USA Today, CNET, internet-filter-review.toptenreviews.com


Doug Hutchins is the Founder of www.puritytraining.com. We asked Doug to write for MPL because his emphasis is on practical steps kids and parents alike can take to promote purity. In addition to spending countless hours with teens, Doug also consults with parents on the ins and outs of the latest technology trends involving our kids. The mission at www.puritytraining.com is to train men and women to protect their sacred purity. Interested in finding out more strategies to protect your child’s sexual purity? Doug can be reached at doug@puritytraining.com.