A Prayer for All Parents…

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Have you ever heard of the serenity prayer?  It is a prayer attributed to twentieth century theologian Reinhold Niebuhr. The first part reads:

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and the wisdom to know the difference. 

It just breathes wisdom, doesn’t it? I want to make an observation today that I hope serves as a reminder to all of us as parents. With this prayer as a backdrop, I want to propose that we as parents should work and pray diligently for the “wisdom to know the difference” in terms of what actually matters in our kids’ lives. Listen, some things are important, and some are not!

Being in education, I see many different types of families—wonderful families and various types of goals within those families. I have had the privilege of watching unbelievable parenting as well as what you might call the other end of the spectrum. The observation I mentioned earlier is this: Great parents seem to make a big deal about the right things. They have a definite priority system, and as long as those priorities are taken care of, they do not become bent out of shape by the secondary issues.

Think about it. What do you really want for your kids’ lives? Health, joyful long life, to love their families…the list is NOT long! Yet it is often easy for all of us to blur the lines.  I have a coaching friend who was once handed a check for $100,000 by a guy who wanted his son to play Quarterback. Two weeks earlier, this kid had been in trouble for using cuss words in their school parking lot…addressing his mom! “HELLO! Earth to Dad…wake up, please!”

I realize this is an extreme example, but it actually happened. Sadly, we all fall prey to making a big deal out of small things and taking for granted the most important things…I know I have as a parent. I realize that in some cases we can have both. But if we had to choose, it’s more important for our kids to give their best effort than to make all A’s. It’s more important that they possess good health throughout their lives than that they become rich. We could go on and on with examples, but here is the bottom line. As parents, we have to keep the main things, the main things.



About Kris Hogan

With a 16-year educational tenure under his belt, Kris Hogan has spent the last nine years working at Grapevine Faith High School in Grapevine, Texas. In addition to sitting on its administrative team, Hogan also pulls double duty as Faith’s head football coach. Hogan also was the subject of Remember Why You Play, a 2008 book by sports columnist and author David Thomas that chronicled the lives, struggles and successes of Coach Hogan and his team. READ MORE→