You Should Be Pro Life on This Issue

Pro Life

There is a pro life argument out there that we do not spend near enough time talking about. And you should know that the counterargument isn’t pro choice, it is pro death. I’m not talking about abortion. I’m talking about the words that come from your mouth and mine. Proverbs 18:21 says, “Life and death are in the power of the tongue …” From the people in life who are closest to us, words are probably the vehicle that have the farthest-reaching impact … both good and bad.

Years of statistics have proven the unbelievable influence parents words have on their children—again, both good and bad. Here is a scary statement: The words we use set the course of our children’s lives.

There are two components of the tongue: Today we are addressing the first component, which I call our “NORMAL” vocabulary.

Our normal vocabulary is like a tiny brush on a gigantic canvas. At first, the strokes seem rather insignificant and then, over the months and years, there begins to be a picture forming, until one day there is a portrait … and we say, “Wow! They are already graduating high school!” In the same manner, our everyday vocabulary begins to build a person—which, more accurately stated, means how a person views the world and themselves. We have all met the person who:

  • Is super confident (I can get it done!)
  • Has a victim mentality (Everyone is against me … OR it’s not my fault!)
  • Puts others first (Super kind, very mild, would harm no one)
  • Is completely egocentric (The world is all about ME!)
  • Has a gloomy outlook (We’ll never make it!)
  • Is very optimistic (We can find a way!)

We could make this list a mile long, but the bottom line is, these people—like our children—have been and will be shaped by the process of everyday life.

I consider creating my kids’ vocabulary one of my most important jobs as a parent. There are a few specific goals I have in mind when shaping my kids, (click here to see an example), but if I am not intentional with my everyday language, my chances of success are slim.

Most people believe what they have heard their whole life.

So what are they hearing?


About Kris Hogan

With a 16-year educational tenure under his belt, Kris Hogan has spent the last nine years working at Grapevine Faith High School in Grapevine, Texas. In addition to sitting on its administrative team, Hogan also pulls double duty as Faith’s head football coach. Hogan also was the subject of Remember Why You Play, a 2008 book by sports columnist and author David Thomas that chronicled the lives, struggles and successes of Coach Hogan and his team. READ MORE→