Part 2-You should be pro life on this issue

Pro Life

Last week I wrote about a pro-life agenda…that is, the speaking of life-giving words. I pointed out that years of statistics have proven the large impact that a parent’s words have in shaping how their children view the world. Indeed, the words we use set the course of our children’s lives.

The first component of the tongue that speaks life is what I call normal vocabulary (see last week for that information). This week I want to point out what I call our “SITUATION” language … that is, our language of default when things do not go as expected (or we have a situation!).

You know, when the guy hits himself on the thumb with a hammer and virtually involuntarily sprays out a four-letter word and immediately apologizes.

Or, more on our topic: when the homework you told them to do and their assigned chores have been ignored. Not to mention they just made a mess in the kitchen, their room is a disaster, and they momentarily sport an attitude of entitlement, not recognizing for a moment the amount of work you do to support their comfortable lifestyle! Yes, that moment, when you snap and say … well, whatever it is you say, in whatever tone you say it.

Oh, those situations. My all-time favorite is when they insist on fighting even after you’ve warned them multiple times…they get louder and louder, getting on your last nerve and suddenly one of them knocks your ice tea out of your hand as they run by screaming (in the midst of the fight). Oh, and the tea glass shatters on the floor. … Yep, it’s just so darn fun raising these critters!

Anyway, you get the point. I have been guilty of saying things in kid “situations” that in hindsight, I wish I had not said. I am not talking about cussing or foul language—I’m talking about speaking words of death into the life of a child, something that hits at the core of who the child is or how they are designed.

We’ve all heard of kids who were told they were stupid, weird, or would never amount to anything. Typically and tragically, this language is imbedded in the mind of the child and they try their hardest to be what they have been told they are. So, even in “situations,” keep in mind that we could be telling them something about themselves if we are not careful.

Situations do not determine what we do or what we say … principles do. Our principles are life.




Proverbs 18:21 – Life and death are in the power of the tongue …”

Proverbs 16:32 – He who is slow to anger is greater than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who captures a city.

About Kris Hogan

With a 16-year educational tenure under his belt, Kris Hogan has spent the last nine years working at Grapevine Faith High School in Grapevine, Texas. In addition to sitting on its administrative team, Hogan also pulls double duty as Faith’s head football coach. Hogan also was the subject of Remember Why You Play, a 2008 book by sports columnist and author David Thomas that chronicled the lives, struggles and successes of Coach Hogan and his team. READ MORE→