Parents, Let’s Raise the Bar!

But ONLY if we have already set the bar. … One of the most important things we can do for our kids is constantly emphasize the expected operating standards. From kindergarten to college, kids should be intentionally trained with guidelines, expectations … standards. And I mean standards that are so ingrained mentally, that they become types of inescapable compasses as the child navigates through life.

I just delivered a message to a group of students highlighting the standards of the prophet Daniel. It was Daniel’s ingrained set of standards that set him apart from his peers. His diet standard derived from the Levitical training he received as a child was the first point of conflict he encountered as a prisoner in a foreign land. Daniel 1:8 says, “Daniel resolved that he would not defile himself with the king’s food or with the wine that he drank.” (He reverted back to an ingrained standard.) Immediately following, the next verse says, “And God gave Daniel favor and compassion in the sight of the chief of the eunuchs.” Standards bring favor ultimately, even if they actually cause conflict in the short term. The other obvious standard held by Daniel was that of prayer, which landed him in the lion’s den … at least for a time.

My questions for us as parents are:

What are the primary standards we have for our children? Just as important, in what areas of life? Are these standards taught intentionally and consistently enough to become ingrained compasses? Will they be strong enough to withstand the inevitable storms of peer pressure, the business world, and future family life? Will they be deep enough that they are passed on to our grandchildren?


Let’s do it!



About Kris Hogan

With a 16-year educational tenure under his belt, Kris Hogan has spent the last nine years working at Grapevine Faith High School in Grapevine, Texas. In addition to sitting on its administrative team, Hogan also pulls double duty as Faith’s head football coach. Hogan also was the subject of Remember Why You Play, a 2008 book by sports columnist and author David Thomas that chronicled the lives, struggles and successes of Coach Hogan and his team. READ MORE→